“I’m 14 years old and you think I am too young for everything.”
My lovely daughter thinks I am too protective and have too many rules. I disagree. I think that children are supposed to age gradually. What the heck is the rush about? Back in my days children were supposed to look like children.
I think she should cut me some slack. For her birthday I paid for some skinny, high-waisted jeans. I completely caved and bought it under pressure, it was her birthday and she milked me like a cow. I absolutely hate those jeans. They are skin-tight from ankle all the way past her belly button. Gross. She knows I despise them so she only wears them occasionally when she especially wants to look ‘good.’
From my little baby was about 4 or 5 I actually stopped buying shorts and only bought capris. Why? When I look around at girls in short shorts from them I knew that I was not cool with it. So I decided that instead of having to back track later on when she gets older I won’t even let her get used to the idea of wearing shorts past her mid-thigh. This was fine for a long time, until……. Separation and divorce have a way of distracting you.
After coming out of a two year emotional cocoon I look at my baby and wonder who the heck has been dressing this child? Her pants are much tighter than I would have approved of in my right mind, and her shorts are much shorter. The only battle I was still winning is the fact that she doesn’t wear tights like all the girls now do ( well not that I know of anyways). I hate tights, to me it looks like you just have your body on display and seeing as I’m not ready to sell I don’t see the need to advertise.
So to issue of the makeup that caused our last ‘discussion’. She does wear makeup, a bit of lipstick and mascara. That’s good, no? But she now wants to wear eyeliner too and extend it past her eye lid. That’s what got me, the extended part. I know it’s not a huge deal in the big scheme of things. I want her to express herself but my theory is some things are age appropriate. Since I don’t have a break down or a schedule of what age things become appropriate at what age, I decide as I go along. And believe me I am pretty liberal, again why I think she should cut me some slack. I allowed for the second ear piercing at 13 years old! I never even had my own ears pierced for the first time until I was 16 years old. Ok this is not about me. So for the eyeliner past the end of the eye lid thing, I decided that will become appropriate at 16 which is the same age I had chosen 2 years ago for dyeing her hair red. That’s gonna be fun.